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Thanks so much for responding. It made me feel better to know that others have dealt with this problem. Since I've been asked to make a HIT re the answers, I'm going to give it try...not quite sure how to. Our principal suspended the boy who sent the e-mail for five days with recommendations that he get outside counseling as he is in the middle of a bad divorce. No ban from the library. We feel his paid his dues and should go on as before. The bad news for him is that I'm also the college advisor and he was second in his class...no apology demanded, and none given other than the first tearful one which was essentially, "sorry I got caught"...I don't know how he feels, but I harbor no angry thoughts as he is a kid I barely knew and had had little chance to get to know. **************** I had about 5 kids like that one year that got it when they went to the upper school. I couldn't do anything with them but when they got to the upper school they went into email accounts with a program that figured out passwords. This is a federal offence. This was explained to them by the Honor Council, they opted for the lesser punishment, arrest or out of the lab for the semester. They are pretty good now but one is exactly like the one you're talkinga bout. They must be twin brothers!!;-) I think you should remove any and all privileges for this nasty kid. I wouldn't have a weekly meeting with anyone who shows a lack of respect this kid has, and if you have a strong teachers' union in MT, I'd get their help since it seems your principal is dumping on you instead of supporting you. Since you asked for general help, I will forward your message to the librarian in our district who has had the most experience with this sort of thing (her PITA -- pain in the *** -- got expelled eventually!) and see if she has any ideas for you. I think this is more than being smarter than you are. I have found it in many cases to be a case of "dissing" the librarian - after all we're not teachers - and a superior attitude of teenage boys toward females. I work with some Techies who have the same attitude. They want to change our home page. While I am not as techie as they are, I can write some html. They've learned that wisdom and smart are not the same, but it takes a lot of patience on my part to teach them that. They usually have to fall on their face first. Just a thought, Terminate his account?? 2) Make him pay for the damages? 3) Give him some incentive to behave... additional privileges etc? We just had this happen with an anonymous e-mail sent to one of our teachers--which of course was immediately identified. Principal called in parents, conferenced w/parents and students/ student lost computer privileges. You need to send a message that you mean business. I have had some wonderful episodes like you. Thank heavens they are few and far between. When we have had some real problems about vandelism on the computers or lying in regard to hidden files, that student has been suspended from all computer use at school for the year's duration. IMHO, there are some students, at some times, we cannot reach. I think we should foucs our energies on those we do. >Apparently this hardnosed attitude of mine has been a constant irritant to >one student who recently sent me an incredibly nasty e-mail starting it by >saying"ha.ha. you will never find out who sent this because I'm smarter >than you...." Julie: First, please drop the notion that you are somehow responsible for others' choices to be abusive. You are doing your best. It is not others' place to judge you in such circumstances. It is their place to help (or in the very least, do no harm), if they would be credible. Next, don't consider this your personal problem. An individual who needs to learn personal responsibility and appropriate behavior has abused his privileges and attempted to abuse you in the process. You certainly have the option to seek legal redress; but before you do this, perhaps you will want to school this misguided individual in his responsibilities to himself. As your administration appears at least not to be cowed by this individual (I've experienced otherwise), consider asking your principal to invite a member of the FBI to contact this individual--in the best interest of all. The FBI does take this abuse seriously, as well we must, and should be receptive to helping you to educate this wayward soul. Meantime, with any such abusive attempts, a rote response of "What is your objection to acting with decency, respect and basic consideration?" will often give others' pause to think about their conduct and behavior, and how it damages themselves. Yes, it is understood that this individual suffers from some serious insecurity. Showing him decency, respect and basic consideration, while also standing on the fact that you will obviously not be bullied or abused is the best, most positive way to help this individual grow in discovering his personal responsibility. Trust yourself and have fun. Take care. I wish you well. *************************************** Julie Radtke, Librarian Loyola Sacred Heart High School 320 Edith Missoula, MT 59801 FAX 405-542-1432 lsh@montana.com ***************************************