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I know how unpleasant it is to get a hateful message. Don't blame yourself for this--remember, students have been making anonymous phone calls to annoy teachers for a long, long time. Rules are a way of enabling a large number of people--students and teachers--to work together smoothly. Some students don't buy this, but you are a better judge of how the library and computers should be used than they are. Yes, I've had experience with a few "arrogant young computer gurus." Ours don't think rules apply to them. I received a nasty e-mail message recently, and though identity of the sender could not be proven, another teacher gave me a very short list of students who'd been using the computer from which the message was sent. I'm short on suggestions for dealing with your student. I hope the meetings your principal set up are for the purpose of receiving the student's heartfelt apology. BTW, after several instances of student misuse of the Internet and e-mail, our principal drastically cut down on student access to both. A student must bring a note from his/her teacher stating exactly what he/she needs to research. No surfing, no lyrics to rock songs, no sports scores, no e-mail to pals. Julie : I've been teacher-librarian for some 28 years now, so take heart. And listen up. There will be always some children that are so angry or so immature who will vent their frustrations on whatever person comes in handy. Apparently, you're the target-of-the-moment, for whatever reason. From your response, I suggest that the student has found that he/she can get a reaction from you and it is this that gives him/her a sense of empowerment. The first thing to do is to take a coffee break, put your feet up, and take a few minutes in the Staff Room to vent your frustrations to a colleague. Do it only once! Then, after you have shown the note to your Administration, telephone the child's parents to come in to talk with you. Most parents will appreciate your concern and knowing what their child has done. Most will appreciate your attempts to help their child. Then let them deal with it, for it usually is symptomatic of a larger problem. Suggest, however, that the student should apologize to you. Now, forget it. You may wish to twist the kid's head off, but if you treat him/her as you would ANY OTHER student, you show maturity.... and frustrate the Heck out of the kid because he'd didn't get the empowerment he expected. If he apologizes, accept it sincerely and don't preach. That gives him the upper hand again. You might just find that, in a year or two, this one will find you were the best person ever to have been encountered in his young life. There are many sites on computer use and ethics - copyright issues - nettiquite - I'd have the student be researching and writing a policy that deals with those issues. (Similar to an AUP, but more of a "manners" policy) There are students who have been arrested for harassment for email misuse. It is no different than the student threatening you in person or by snail mail. I have no helpful ideas for you but I do have a lot of similar problems. Just today we had the wallpaper on one computer showing a gross porno picture -- took 3 technicians (who happened to be in the library setting up new computers) a good hour to get it off. The computer next to it had a permanent screen with bombs on it which was secured by a virus and allowed noone to get thru to use the computer. This on we finally had to wipe out the hard disc and reinstall everything. We haven't caught them yet but I hear that they are beginning to brag to friends so it won't be long. I would love for you to post a hit of others' ideas -- I'll bet we are not the only ones out there with miserable little hackers around. I have found the best way to deal with nasty students is to meet with them one on one. Get them talking about why they are reacting to you that way. I would start with something like, "Since you sent me the e-mail which was worded the way it was, I feel we have a problem. Since we have to work together, let's try to be mature about this. You seem to have more time to learn about computers and I'm sure you could help me and all students and contribute to the school this way." Try to let the student talk to you about how these feelings came about and why he/she acts the way they do. Don't take anything personally. There is probably something else going on in the student's life causing the attitude. Of course, sometimes there is no quick fix for this type of situation. If the student says you have been unfair or over restrictive in the past, explain your situation and ask him/her to evaluate what would be the way they would handle it. Ask them to think of how they would structure the class and get back to you. Perhaps you two can discuss what's wrong with the student's solution. Of course, this assumes the student with engage with dialog with you. Good luck! *************************************** Julie Radtke, Librarian Loyola Sacred Heart High School 320 Edith Missoula, MT 59801 FAX 405-542-1432 lsh@montana.com ***************************************