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Here is a hit of all the info I received about suggestions for ways that our faculty could memorialize a deceased family member. Thanks to Diane A., Gail, Richard, Nancy, Mary, Gerri, Diane S., and Karen. Incidentally we decided to donate money to set up a scholarship fund for Boy Scouts (the deceased was a Scout) to attend summer camp in Matt's name. Thanks again and I hope some of you would find this information helpful in the future. *********************************** Last year a former student of ours and the child of one of our staff members was killed by a drunk driver. The students made a small memorial garden at a spot where the mother can see it. Since then we (faculty and staff) have placed rose bushes there for every faculty and staff member who has lost a child. Today, I picked a rose from the bush in memory of my son who died as a premature baby 15 years ago. It is comforting to us to have this living memorial to our children. Please express my sympathy to your co-worker. The loss of a child is difficult to bear. ************************************ About 5 years ago February, we had a student die. I can't spell the disease, it was a type of meningitis, but Elizabeth went from being fine to being dead in 24 hours. We are a boarding school, so it hit the community very hard, indeed. Elizabeth was a great runner. In May that year the school planted a tree and purchased a lovely bench and placed them both right near the finish line of our track. The bench faces the west and it really is a lovely place to sit, especially at the end of the day, and watch the sun set. Two years ago the parents of the class of '97 (which would have been her class) paid for a pond (believe me, the parents at our school have far more money than the faculty!!) to be dug on the campus and it was named for Elizabeth. A little brick patio was developed on the side of the pond and each brick had the name of each kid in Elizabeth's class. Elizabeth's name and her dates are in the center of the patio. It is very nicely landscaped and two more pretty benches were placed there. Of course, a pond is over the top for most places, but the benches, which have plaques on them with Elizabeth's name, are used all the time. I, myself, think of her each day when I drive onto campus and pass the pond. I think for a memorial gift you can't do better than something which everyone in the school can enjoy, but still brings a memory of the dear one who has died. ********************************** Unfortunately I have had that experience. 5 years ago our kindergarten teacher's son, who had just graduated from UNH was killed. She was very, very close to him, and it almost cost her her life too. She credits our Principal for the fact that she is still alive. Doug was a superb athlete, and a scholar. We created the Doug Sargent memorial award that is given out each year to the eight grader who is the top scholar/athlete. We have a track and field day in Doug's honor every year, and so does Keene High. There is a plaque in the entrance way to the school that tells about Doug. I believe there is also a scholarship at Keene High that is given to a Chesterfield student who is a scholar/athlete. On the personal side, our Principal had to tell her, and he also gave the eulogy at Doug's funeral. Doug lived in the International dorm at UNH, and his friends had come not only from UNH but from around the world for his funeral. It was so heartbreaking. Marty, my principal, did everything he could for her, as she was in a terrible depression. When she came back to work she worked every other day. He let her take as much time off as she needed to. He also fought for her to be able to job share the next year--and they still do. We also brought meals to her house, for a while, especially when she was desperately struggling with depression. A team would sign up for dinner, and we would break it down to what each member had to bring. Your teacher is going to need all the support your staff can give ******************************** That's so sad. This is the first year of our Dave Nenow Memorial Garden and it was a wonderful idea. A plot of land in back of the school is being used and many classrooms are growing things in their boxes. (Shallow wooden trays filled with soil donated by our local Wal-Mart, among others). Kindergarten through eighth grade are finding ways that their plot supports the curriculum. And it's a cheerful, happy place to remember him by. P.S. It's been so successful that a tree, bench, and nature walk with indigenous plants will be added next year, funded by donations. If you get a lot of good responses, you might want to post a hit. So many schools lose a loved member, the more ideas, the better. ************************************************* Our school has had numerous gifts made to the library in memory of students that have passed away. Usually, we are sent a check and asked to choose an appropriate book or books to be bought as a memorial. Sometimes we are asked to buy something in a specific subject area--most times not. Once the book is chosen (and unless otherwise requested, we choose from what is on our to be cataloged shelves), we send a thank you note that lets the giver know the title of the book and what is stated in the book plate. Obviously from that last statement, we put a book plate in each gift book stating that the book was given in memory of... and by whom if that is desired. That's what we usually do, we've also used the money given to us to purchase our regular magazine subscription of a title that was of particular interest to the student being remembered. We palced a gift message on the plastic cover we use for our current issue. Finally, a colleague of mine lost her newly adopted baby last year, and we did two things as a school community. One was to collect donations for the children's hospital where she was treated and a second collection was made to give books in her name to the local public library's children's section (a plaque of some sort was included in this one, I think.) Anyway, those are some ideas for such a sad occasion. Please pass on my sympathy to your colleague. ******************************* 20 years ago 4 young people were killed in a car accident with their own alcohol use involved, 2 were from our school, one a recent graudate. Her parents gave $500.--a lot of money then espeically and we decided, after some consideration, to build up our girls' self-esteem books, biographies, history, etc. It was a successful project. *********************************** You might consider a tree, with a plaque in the ground beside it noting "in memory of.." This was done when 2 children in our school died in boating accident. -************************************* Josephine, How tragic. We had the very same thing happen in our district. The son of one of our football coaches was killed Dec. 11th after the van he was riding in was hit by a drunk driver. His grandfather also died in the accident. Since then, we have had several donations of money to what we are calling Ryan's Corner in the library. Ryan was a 6th grader here at our school of 330 fifth and sixth graders. I even asked LMNETTERS for suggestions of books to put in the corner. We have plants(still form the funeral flowers), two big Nintendo chairs (donated by PTO), stereo system with mood music tapes (donated by one teacher) and books (donated from everywhere and I'm still ordering.) This was there only child as well (so very sad!) and the family has established a small scholarship in his name. Good luck to you all and God Bless! ************************************** In our school several years ago a child's death lead to the establishment of a "Muffy Award" which is a $25.00 savings bond presented to the member of the eighth grade class who is the most like Muffy...who was an avid reader. The bond is funded by interest from an account which was established. ************************************** -- ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ Josephine Dervan Library Media Specialist Strathmore Elementary School Aberdeen, New Jersey, USA 07747 Home-rderva@injersey.com School-jdervan@marsd.k12.nj.us PC/Windows95, Netscape Communicator 4.0/Netscape Mail "Anyone who has a library and a garden wants for nothing"- CICERO =-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-==-= All postings to LM_NET are protected under copyright law. To quit LM_NET (or set-reset NOMAIL or DIGEST), send email to: listserv@listserv.syr.edu In the message write EITHER: 1) SIGNOFF LM_NET 2) SET LM_NET NOMAIL or 3) SET LM_NET DIGEST 3) SET LM_NET MAIL * Please allow for confirmation from Listserv For LM_NET Help & Archives see: http://ericir.syr.edu/lm_net/ =-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=-=--=-=-=