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At 04:39 PM 8/2/2006, Juliann t. Moskowitz wrote:
>  However,what bothers me most about peoples' criticism of one's 
> personality is, do they ever say these things to men? Are men 
> supposed to be bubbly? Are men supposed to smile all the time. I 
> really feel on some level these comments are sexist.

I'll turn this around a bit, if I may.  I vividly remember an 
interview lo, these many years ago, when I was told I wasn't 
"suitable" for the job (school librarian) because............(wait 
for it)......... "Men aren't supposed to be librarians.  Women are 
librarians.  <pause>  Is there something we should know about 
you?"  I walked out  of that particular interview.  Stereotypes cut 
both ways.  Someone earlier said that fizz and bubbles don't last 
long.  Very true, and I think 'playing a role' all the time against 
your nature isn't in your, or your employer's, best 
interests.  Obviously, if you are extremely dour or hostile, you 
aren't going to be successful as a school librarian.  But after a 
while, 'bubbly' can get really old.  And kids are very adept at 
picking up on the false heartiness of adults.

Just my 57 cents worth.

Mark Williams
Consulting Librarian
Professional Services for Conferences, Districts, Workshops
"The closest thing you will find to an orderly universe is a good 
library"  Ashleigh Brilliant  

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