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Here is part of the misc.kid FAQ on this subject (death in general, not
just newborn siblings). I include it all so librarians and teachers may
keep it to use at an appropriate time. BTW - this is my first contribution
to this list. I save lists of this type for my son's school librarian.
Betsy Wilson
Misc.Kids - FAQ
Children's Books Dealing With Death
Kept by: Laura Dolson dolson@crl.ucsd.edu
<<<snipped info here, just kept the book list>>
This first group was culled by a misc.kidder from a magazine:
A Time for Remembering
Chuck Thurman (Simon and Schuster, 1989)
Ages 5-8. After his grandfather dies, a boy recalls the special
times they shared together.
A Family Project
Sarah Ellis (Macmillan, 1988)
Ages 9-12. Jessica and her brothers cope with their baby
sister's crib death.
Bridge to Terabithia
Katherine Paterson (Harper, 1977)
Ages 10-13. A beautifully written story about how a boy handles
the sudden death of his best friend.
Learning to Say Goodbye: When a Parent Dies
Eda LeShan (Macmillan, 1976)
Ages 7 and up. Insight into kids' feelings, plus sympathy and
practical advice.
Suggestions from Misc.kidders and my own research:
Grandpa and Me - Marlee and Ben Alex
- we learn about death
Nadia the Willful - Sue Alexander
- a little Arabian girl insists on keeping the memory of her dead brother,
against the wishes of her father and tribe
The Two of Them - Aliki
- death of a little girl's grandfather
What Happened When Grandma Died - Peggy Barker (Concordia Publishing House)
Nonna - Jennifer Bartoli
- the death of a young boy's grandmother
Someone Small - B. Borack (Parents Magazine Press, 1973)
The Dead Bird - Margaret Wise Brown (Young Scott Books, 1958)
- The experience of children finding a dead bird and providing it with
a suitable burial
The Happy Funeral - Eve Bunting
- Laura goes with her sister to the funeral home in Chinatown, where
grandfather lies in an open casket. Shows ceremonial customs of a
Chinese-American community
The Accident - by Carol Carrick
- A young child's feelings of guilt, anger, and grief at the death of a pet
Everett Anderson's Goodbye - Lucille Clifton
- A little boy trying to come to grips with his father's death
First Snow - H. Coutant (Alfred A Knopf Publishers, 1974)
Nana Upstairs and Nana Downstairs - Tomie De Paola
- The relationship between young and old
Now One Foot, Now the Other - Tomie De Paola
- about a grandfather's stroke and recovery
The Hurt - Teddi Doleski (Paulist Press, 1983)
A Family Project - Sarah Ellis (Macmillan, 1988)
- Ages 9-12. Jessica and her brothers cope with their baby sister's crib
death.
My Grandpa Died Today - J. Fassler (Behavioral Publications, 1971)
Talking About Death: Dialog between Parent and Child - Earl Grollman
No New Baby - Marilyn Gryte (Centering Corporation)
- for ages 10 and under
When My Dad Died - Janice M. Hammond (Cranbrook Publication Co.)
Why did He Die? - A. Harris (Lerner Publications, Inc., 1971)
Learning to Say Goodbye: When a Parent Dies - Eda LeShan (Macmillan, 1976)
- Ages 7 and up. Insight into kids' feelings, plus sympathy and practical
advice.
Lifetimes - Bryan Mellonie and Robert Ingpen
- talks about the lifetimes and cycles of many plant and animals, and of
people
Annie and the Old One - R. Miles (Little, Brown and Company, 1971)
- (death of Grandmother)
Alison's Grandfather - Linda Peavy
- Erica's friend, Allison's grandfather dies. Erica's mother answers her
many questions
Bridge to Terabithia - Katherine Paterson (Harper, 1977)
- Ages 10-13. A beautifully written story about how a boy handles
the sudden death of his best friend.
Someone Special Died - Joan Singleton Pristine (Price, Stem, Sloan, 1987)
It Must Hurt a Lot, A Child's Book About Death - Doris Stanford (Multnomah
Press, 1985)
About Dying - S. Stein (Walker and Company, 1974)
- (Bird, grandfather)
When Grandpa Died - Margaret Stevens
- Good handling of death in the family
A Time for Remembering - Chuck Thurman (Simon and Schuster, 1989)
- Ages 5-8. After his grandfather dies, a boy recalls the special times
they shared together.
Petey - Toby Tobias
- Emily's pet gerbil dies. One of the more thoughtful books about death
for young children
Badger's Parting Gifts - Susan Varley (Lothrop, Lee, & Shephard Books, 1984)
The Tenth Good Thing About Barney - Judith Viorst (Atheneum, 1971)
- When Barney the cat dies, his owner discovers something positive comes
from his death Ages 3-7
Growing Time- S. W??burg (Houghton Rufftin Company, 1969)
My Grandson Lew - by Charlotte Zolotow
- A small boy and his mother share memories about his grandfather
-The Fall of Freddie the Leaf
Karin Coffee writes:
I got this list of books from The Dougy Center.
The Dougy Center is in Portland, Oregon. It is for children who are
dealing with the loss of a parent.
_CHILDREN'S_LITERATURE:_
BOOKS FOR CHILDREN 3 TO 8 YEARS:
Alex, Marlee & Ben, _Grandpa_and_Me_, (We learn about death).
Barker, Peggy, _What_Happened_When_Grandma_Died_, Concordia Publishing House.
Borack, B., _Someone_Small_, Parent's Magazine Press, 1973.
Brown, M., _The_Dead_Bird_, Young Scott Books, 1958.
Coutant, H., _First_Snow_, Alfred A. Knopf Publishers, 1974. Vietnam
(Buddhist point of view).
De Paola, Tomie, _Nana_Upstairs,_Nana_Downstairs_, Puffin Books.
Doleski, Teddi, _The_Hurt_, Paulist Press, 1983.
Fassler, J., _My_Grandpa_Died_Today_, Behavioral Publications, Inc., 1971.
Grollman, Earl, _Talking_About_Death:_dialogue_between_parent_and_child.
Hammond, Janice M., _When_My_Dad_Died_, Cranbrook Publication Co.
Harris, A., _Why_Did_He_Die?_, Lerner Publications, Inc., 1971.
LeShan, Eda, _Learning_to_Say_Good-bye_, Macmillan, 1976.
Miles, R., _Annie_and_the_Old_One_, Little, Brown and Company, 1971.
(Grandmother)
Pristine, Joan Singleton, _Someone_Special_Died_, Price, Stem, Sloan, 1987.
Sanford, Doris, _It_Must_Hurt_a_Lot,_A_Child's_Book_About_Death_,
Multnomah Press, 1985.
Stein, S., _About_Dying_, Walker and Company, 1974. (Bird, grandfather)
Varley, Susan, _Badger's_Parting_Gifts_, Lothrop, Lee, & Shephard Books, 1984.
Viorst, J., _The_Tenth_Good_Thing_About_Barney_, Atheneum, 1971. (cat)
Warburg, S., _Growing_Time_, Houghton Rufftin Company, 1969.
BOOKS FOR CHILDREN AGES 10 AND UNDER:
Gryte, Marilyn, _No_New_Baby_, Centering Corporation.
BOOKS FOR CHILDREN AGES 9 TO 12 YEARS:
Barker, Peggy, _What_Happened_When_Grandma_Died_, Concordia, 1984.
Brooks, J., _Uncle_Mike's_Boy_, Houghton-Mifflin, 1977.
Buck, P., _The_Big_Wave_, The John Day Company, 1947.
Cleaver, B. and Cleaver, V., _Grover_, J.B. Lippincott Co., 1970.
Carrick, C., _The_Accident_, Seaburg Press, 1976. (dog)
Clifton, Lucille, _Everett_Anderson's_Good-bye_, Holt, Rinehart, and Winston.
Coburn, J.B., _Anne_and_the_Sand_Dobbies_, Seabury Press, 1964.
Cohen, B., _Thank_you,_Jackie_Robinson_, Lothrop, Lee and Shepard, 1974.
Donnelly, Elfie, _So_Long_Grandpa_, Crown Publishers.
Hoopes, Lyn L., _Nana_, Harper & Row, 1981.
Jampolsky, G., _There's_a_Rainbow_Behind_Every_Dark_Cloud_, Celestial Arts,
1978.
Jampolsky, G., _Straight_From_the_Siblings:_Another_Look_at_the_Rainbow,
Celestial Arts, 1982.
Johnson, Philip E., _Goodbye,_Mom,_Goodbye_, Welch Publishing Co.
Kantrowitz, M., _When_Violet_Died_, Seabury Press, 1971.
Koch, Ron, _Goodbye_Grandpa_, Augsburg Publishing House.
Kremantz, Jill, _How_It_Feels_When_a_Parent_Dies_, Alfred Knopf, 1983.
Lee, V., _The_Magic_Moth_, Seabury Press, 1972. (sister)
Levy, Erin, _Children_are_Not_Paper_Dolls_.
Lichtman, W., _Blew_and_the_Death_of_the_Mag_, Freestone, 1975.
Lovre, Cheri, _When_Somebody_Special_Dies_, (Children talking about sibs or
parents who have died)
Lowry, L., _A_Summer_to_Die_, Houghton-Mifflin, 1977. (sister)
Ogel, D., _The_Mulberry_Music_, Harper and Row, 1971. (grandmother)
Smith, D., _A_Taste_of_Blackberries_, Thomas Y. Crowell, 1973. (boy's friend)
Vogel, I., _My_Twin_Sister_Erika_, Harper and Row, 1976.
White, E.B., _Charlotte's_Web_, Harper and Row, 1952.
BOOKS FOR CHILDREN 13 AND OVER:
Agee, J., _A_Death_in_the_Family_, Avon, 1959.
Alcott, L., _Little_Men_, The Macmillan Company, 1963.
Alcott, L., _Little_Women_, World Publications, 1969.
Buck, P., _The_Good_Earth_, The John Day Company, 1931.
Cleaver, B. and Cleaver V., _Where_the_Lillies_Bloom_, J.B. Lippincott, Co.,
1969.
Crane, S., _Red_Badge_of_Courage_, Random House, 1951.
Dixon, P., _May_I_Cross_Your_Golden_River?_, Atheneum, 1975.
Farley, Carol, _The_Garden_is_Doing_Fine_, Atheneum, 1975.
Geller, Norman, _The_LAST_Teenage_Suicide_, Norman Geller Publishing, 1987.
Green, C., _Beat_the_Turtle_Drum_, Viking Press, 1976.
Grollman, Earl A., Grollman, Sharon H., _Talking_About_Suicide_, Char Koosta,
Printing.
Kremantz, Jill, _How_It_Feels_When_a_Parent_Dies_, Alfred Knopf, 1983.
LaTour, Kathy, _For_Those_Who_Live_, 1983.
Lund, D., _Eric_, J.B. Lippincott, Co., 1974.
Gunther, J., _Death_Be_Not_Proud_, Harper and Row, 1949.
Morris, J., _A_Short_Season_, Avon, 1969.
Paterson, Katherine, _Bridge_to_Tarabithia_, (friend).
Rawls, Wilson, _Where_the_Red_Fern_Grows_, (dogs).
Rofes, Eric E. and the unit at Fayerweather Street School,
_The_Kid's_Book_About_Death_and_Dying:__By_and_For_Kids_, Little Braum.
Segal, E., _Love_Story_, Harper and Row, 1970.
EXCELLENT FOR ANY AGE--EVEN ADULTS
Buscaglia, Leo, _The_Fall_of_Freddie_the_Leaf_, Holt, Rinhart.
Exupery, Antoine de Saint, _The_Little_Prince_, Harcourt, Brace, Jovanovich.
Hague, Michael, _The_Velveteen_Rabbit_, Holt, Rinehart, Winston.
Kubler-Ross, Elisabeth, _Remember_the_Secret_, Macmillan Press.
Lewis, C.S., _Chronicles_of_Narnia_, Macmillan (set of seven books).
Mandino, Og, _The_Gift_of_Acabar_, Bantam Books.
Paulus, Trina, _Hope_for_the_Flowers_, Paulist Press.
Silverstein, Shel, _The_Giving_Tree_, Harper and Row.
FOR PARENTS
Bordon, Thomas, _Parent_Effectiveness_Training_, Effectiveness Training, Inc.,
1976.
Dinkman, Don & Gary D. McKay, _The_Parent's_Handbook,_S.T.E.P._
(System Training for Effective Parenting), American Guidance Service,
1982.
Faber, Adele & Elaine Mazlish, _How_to_Talk_So_Kids_Will_Listen_and_Listen_
_so_Kids_Will_Talk_, Avon Books, 1982.
Hamer, Gregory Boden, _Back_in_Control_, Prentice Hall.
Oaklander, Violet, _Windows_to_Our_Children_, Real People Press, 1978.
FOR ADULTS AND PROFESSIONALS
Anthony, Silvia, _The_Discovery_of_Death_in_Childhood_&_After_, Basic Books.
Bartocci, Barbara, _My_Angry_Son:_Sometimes_Love_is_Not_Enough_,
Donald I. Fine, Inc.
Bordaw, Joan, _The_Ultimate_Loss:_Coping_With_the_Death_of_a_Child_, Uniquity.
Bowlby, John, _Attachment_&_Loss_, Vol. III, Basic Book.
Caine, Lynn, _Widow_, Morrow, 1974. (Deeply honest story of a woman dealing
with her widowhood. She became a single parent of two children.)
_Children_and_Death_Proceedings_of_1985_King's_College_Conference_.
Colgrove, Bloomfield, McWilliams, _How_to_Survive_the_Loss_of_a_Love_, Simon &
Schuster, 1976. (Fifty-eight short prose-poems that help people
deal with emotional hurt.)
Corr, Charles A., & Joan W. McNeil, _Adolescence_&_Death_, Springer.
Derford, Frank, Alex:_The_Life_of_a_Child_, Viking.
Frain, John D., Jacque Taylor, Linda Ernest, _Coping_With_Sudden_Infant_
_Death_, Heath.
Furman, Erna, _A_Child's_Parent_Dies_, Yale.
Geller, Norman, _The_LAST_Teenage_Suicide_, Norman Geller Publishing, 1987.
Gordon, Audrey and Dennis Kloss, _The_Need_to_Know_, a spectrum book.
Grollman, Earl, _Concerning_Death_, Beacon.
Grollman, Earl, _Explaining_Death_to_Children_, Beacon -- excellent.
Grollman, Earl, _Suicide_, Beacon.
Grollman, Earl A., Grollman, Sharon H., _Talking_about_Suicide_, Char Koosta
Printing.
Grollman, Earl, _What_Helped_Me_When_My_Loved_One_Died_, Beacon Press, Boston,
1981. (A collection of personal stories from people who have lost a
loved one.)
Jackson, Edgar, _The_Many_Faces_of_Grief_, Abingdon.
_Jason's_Picture:__The_Butterfly_and_The_Frog_, (artwork & story of a grieving
child, Centering Corporation, 1984.
Kreeft, Peter, _Making_Sense_Out_of_Suffering_, Servant Books.
Kubler-Ross, Elisabeth, _On_Children_and_Death_.
Kushner, Harold, _When_Bad_Things_Happen_to_Good_People_, Schocken Books, 1981.
(A rabbi wrestles with the problems of human suffering.)
LaTour, Kathy, _For_Those_Who_Live_.
Le Shan, Eda, _Learning_to_Say_Goodbye:_When_a_Parent_Dies_, Avon Press, 1976.
(This is an excellent book for children, 10 years and up. It includes
a list of other children's books for different ages.)
Lonetti, Richard, _Children's_Conceptions_of_Death_.
Lukas, Christopher and Seiden, Henry M. Ph.D., _Silent_Grief:__Living_In_The_
_Wake_of_Suicide_, Charles Scribner's Sons, New York, 1987.
Miller, William A., _When_Going_to_Pieces_Holds_You_Together:__You_can_find_
_healing_when_you_allow_yourself_to_grieve_, Augsburg Publishing House.
Orbach, Israel, _Children_Who_Don't_Want_to_Live_, Jossey-Bass Publishers,
1988.
O'Conner, Nancy, _Letting_Go_With_Love:_The_Grieving_Process_, La Mariposa
Press.
Pecholski, Richard A., edited by Charles A. Corr, _Death:_Completion_&_
_Discovery_, ADEC.
Rando, Therese A., Grief,_Dying_&_Death:_Clinical_Intervention_for_Caregivers_,
Research Press Co., 2612 North Mattis Ave., Champaign, IL 61821, 1984.
Rosen, Helen, _Unspoken_Grief:_Coping_With_Sibling_Loss_, Lexington Books.
Sahler, Ollie Jane, _The_Child_&_Death_, Springen, moshg.
Schiff, Harriet Sarnoff, _The_Bereaved_Parent_, Crown Press, 1977. (A
practical and comforting book written by a bereaved parent.)
Schiff, Harriet Sarnoff, _Living_Through_Mourning:_Finding_Comfort_&_Hope_
_When_a_Loved_One_Has_Died_, Penguin Books.
Shandor-Miles, Margaret, _The_Grief_of_Parents_When_a_Child_Dies_, The
Compassionate Friends.
Sharkey, Frances, MD, _A_Parting_Gift_, St. Martin's Press.
Stearns, Ann Kaiser, _Living_Through_Personal_Crisis_, More Press, Chicago,
1984. (Practical insight for dealing with loss and trauma in our
lives. Recommended by Ann Landers.)
Tatelbawm, Judy, _The_Courage_to_Grieve:_Creative_Living,_Recovery_and_Growth
Through_Grief_, Harper & Row.
Temes, Roberta, _Living_With_an_Empty_Chair_, Irvington Publishing, New York.
(A good book for the widowed.)
Toder, Francine, Ph.D., _When_Your_Child_is_Gone:__Learning_to_Live_Again_
_(after_a_custody_decision,_disappearance,_miscarriage_or_death)_,
Fawcett Crest.
Vale, Elaine, _A_Personal_Guide_to_Living_with_Loss_, John Wiley & Sons.
Veninga, Robert L., _A_Gift_of_Hope:__How_We_Survive_Our_Tragedies_, Ballantine
Books.
Wass, Hannelore, & Charles A. Corr, _Childhood_&_Death_, Hemisphere Publishing
Corporation.
Wass, Hannelore, & Charles A. Corr, _Helping_Children_Cope_with_Death_,
McGraw-Hill.
Worden, William, _Grief_Counseling_&_Grief_Therapy,_A_handbook_for_the_Mental
Health_Practitioner_, Sprinter Publishing, 1982. (An excellent book
for people in the helping professions.)
Zeligs, Rose, _Children's_Experience_With_Death_, Thomas.
******
lois@Ingres.COM (Lois Price) writes:
>Other books are:
> The 10th Good Thing About Barney.
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